The internet has strong words for a ‘selfish’ man who came out at his sister’s wedding / Queerty
There’s no “good time” to come out of the closet, but judging by the reaction to one woman’s story, there might be some “bad times.”
In an anonymous Reddit post titled, “Am I the a**hole (AITA) for throwing a ‘gang’ after my brother walked out at my wedding?”, the 27-year-old opened up about being a lesbian at her homophobic parents when she was 12, and it took them years to accept.
It also caused his younger brother, Olly, to become the de facto “golden child” of his parents. “It made my relationship with Olly a little salty,” she wrote.
She explained that her parents and Olly attended her recent wedding, which she described as a “welcoming environment” with many queer people in attendance.
At the reception, she noticed a commotion coming from her family’s table. Her brother, now 23, had just declared his homosexuality to their parents.
“Olly took advantage of the moment to come out (nothing new, I doubted his sexuality since he was a kid, but it wasn’t my place to expose it),” the post read. “My dad got mad when I wasn’t caught and accused me of hiding things like that. Besides making comments about being disgusted that her kids are two f**gots.
“I said to my parents, ‘You can’t swallow your fucking prejudices for one night. And for Olly: “Of all time, you know it took them a decade to accept me again, can’t you pick another day?” I don’t care if you’re gay, you have to be whoever you want to be, but WHY today?’ »
She said virtually everyone at the event heard the argument and that her fiancee, Polly, intervened before Olly and his parents left.
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While she admits it wasn’t her finest moment, the woman said the moment brought back childhood traumas, which isn’t ideal for your wedding day.
“My parents don’t talk to me,” she revealed, “and honestly, I don’t want to. But I know my brother said I was homophobic and destroyed his coming moment. out. AITA?”
The survey says… no, she’s not the a**hole.
Nearly 1,000 Redditors shared their thoughts, mostly to criticize his brother his family.
Here is a small sample of the responses:
“It gives me ‘I’m going to propose at my brother/friends’ wedding’ vibes. Olly can be whoever he wants but this wasn’t the time or the place to come out, it just screams ‘drama’ .NTA.”
“Your parents are fanatics, and Olly picked a really bad time to come out. It wasn’t Olly’s day. It was your day, and he tried to get people talking for some reason.
“Golden Boy wanted the spotlight to be on him again where it belongs. Parents are obviously TA. I’m sorry this is the family you ended up with. Congratulations on the wedding.
“Everyone here is an a**hole except you. Your brother shouldn’t have co-opted your day. I hate to say it, but your parents look really awful.
“NTA, I’m dying for him to call his homophobic sister ‘homophobic’ because she wasn’t happy he came out at her gay wedding.”
One commenter shared a different take: “I’m giving Olly the benefit of the doubt as to why he chose this time. He probably didn’t plan for it. He was most likely caught up in the very loving environment. and safe for LGBTQ people, saw his parents behaving even though they were openly homophobic, and thought it was the perfect time.